We always love to hear from our Hypno-Dad’s!

Does your partner need some convincing? Would your Birth Partner like to help other Hypno-Dad’s ‘get on board’? Please share with us! Here is what one recent Birth Partner wrote in…

The Origin

 
My wife had our first son the standard way, lying in a hospital bed with an
epidural, as expected. We’d attended and paid close attention during
birthing class, and even memorized and rehearsed the breathing exercises.
That was a fortunate decision on our part, as the epidural didn’t work.
Those breathing exercises provided the only slim relief during the very long
process. Throw in a large regimen of pitocin, serious back labor, and many
many hours of misery and you have our wonderful baby boy exiting his wrecked
mother after 34 hours. Clearly, medicine was not the way forward. We decided
to find a structured alternative to what was both expensive and miserably
ineffective.

The Decision

My wife is a researcher tried and true, and after weighing all the options
she could find, we came down to Bradley versus HypnoBabies. My mother had
seven kids using Bradley, so we didn’t doubt its efficacy. However, the
schedule for the instruction programs available were probably the primary
thing pushing us towards the latter, as my wife worked an odd schedule. How
fortunate. HypnoBabies is designed based on clinically-develope d therapeutic
methods for people with allergies to anesthesia, and the program in general
seem quite well presented and structured. So we ordered the packet.

 
The Preparations

The course was remarkably straightforward, with reading assignments for both
mom and me. While I procrastinated both due to some skepticism and a
lingering aversion to homework (what, I’m an Engineer, I’ve done my time),
it really was a quick read. We slowly worked hypnosis rehearsals into her
daily schedule and also before bed for both of us. We learned that even if
you don’t hypnotize yourself like me, lying in bed with the CDs playing
knocked me right out. Do figure out how to play the tracks singly, otherwise
you’ll be waking up every thirty minutes. Over time I really began to
appreciate the calming effects it was having on my wife, both in general and
when I read the scripts for her. She even tried to hypnotize me and several
other family members. I’m glad that it worked better on her than others, but
I kept my faith in her.

 

The Version

Our daughter decided that she wasn’t about to turn head down in the last
month before birth, and we decided that she was wrong. The obstetrician
recommended an “external version” in which he would basically crank on that
belly until baby flipped, a procedure normally done with an epidural due to
the significant pain involved. The very experienced and skilled doctor was
skeptical of this hypnosis mumbo-jumbo, but recognized that an epidural was
just a waste of good drugs and tubing on my wife. He brought all the student
nurses he could find so that they could see both this somewhat rare
procedure and whether HypnoBabies was worth its weight.
1. This procedure was ridiculous to watch and left my wife with one very
beaten-up belly
2. She was perfectly calm and comfortable the whole time
3. The medical staff was dumbfounded. I’m not exaggerating. Our doctor was
sold on HypnoBabies.

The Baby

Our daughter came on her own damn time, which was clearly foreshadowing, but
regardless we spent the first nine hours of birthing waves at home, doing a
lot of walking. Since my wife is very short-waisted, I would apply pressure
to the top of her tailbone/hips if the intensity was significant. Learn how
to do this. Once the timing got down to below five minutes, we headed to the
hospital so that we could walk around some more for three hours waiting for
a room with a tub. The ONLY time there was any pain is when the hospital
insisted that she lie on her back for fetal monitoring. Learn how to say
“no” to this, make them do it in a comfortable position for MOM, not the
tech. I held a briefing for the staff that was to be assigned to us,
describing our comfort management plan. “Oh, she’s the hypnosis lady… I
heard about her!” That was nice to hear. Once in the room we spent a while
on the birthing ball, about 90 minutes in the tub, and then the OB showed up
for a pelvic. To our surprise, it was time to push! 20 minutes or so later,
the water finally broke and out came baby with a lot of noise from mom’s
super-omming but again, no pain. Again, a very impressed medical staff and a
healthy baby after a mere 16 hours of basically completely comfortable
labor.

The Recovery

What recovery? My wife was up moving about on her own,
packing up to move to an overnight room within 30 minutes. She had basically
no ill effects that a few ibuprofen couldn’t handle. Bring your own, as it
is far cheaper.

Lessons Learned

1. There is no reason to be skeptical or daunted. This program is very
straightforward but genuinely rooted in sound practice.
2. Be a man and take charge of the room. Mom has her business, everything
else needs to revolve around her plan, and that’s your job. Keep the
negativity out of the room, keep the noise out of the room, keep the lights
low.
3. Eat ahead of time. Mom can do the same. The only reason they push that
fasting nonsense is in preparation for general anesthesia during surgery,
and even that is a ridiculously small risk. But seriously: eat.
4. Learn about back-labor relief if your wife is short waisted. Do it.
5. Really learn and memorize your cues for her. Let everyone know that they
don’t need to assume that she’s in pain, because she’ll tell you if she is.
Noise =/= pain.
6. Bring your own ibuprofen.
7. Have some way of playing the birthing day tracks on hand… speakers are
good but an iPod in a ziploc baggie is as well.
8. Be prepared to be amazed.